“You are what you love, not what loves you. That’s what I decided a long time ago.” – Adaptation
After talking with a friend the other day, I realized one of life’s most important processes is adaptation. Whether adapting to a new environment, a current situation, or even just a way of life, adaptation is something we all go through, and yet, rarely think about. Often times, it’s something mundane. Adapting to somebody new at work, a change in temperature, a notion of switching gears. But it’s only when we fear adaptation, that we actually realize how much a part of life it is. When we lose a job and fear if we will find a new one, or moving to a new environment and fear not knowing anyone.
And then of course there is love.
I realize now, the hardest part of a breakup is not the idea of losing the person him/herself, nor is it the ability to find somebody new (although, some would debate that). But to me, the hardest part is the daily influence your significant other had on your life and more often than not… it whittles down to the most trivial things. That morning email you got just as you got into work, a daily phone call you may have received that was about nothing, or the idea of just having somebody to watch TV with or eat with. These are often the simple things that remind us we are now alone and a change is occurring; and the more often these things occurred in one’s daily routine, the harder it is to adapt. Probably why most couples that breakup try to get back with his/her significant other shortly after. All out fear of adapting.
Adaptation can be a mundane process, but it can also be a scary one. The important thing we must all realize is that we do adapt eventually and when we do, we are almost always the better for it.
…and the movie is pretty good as well.